If you want to live happily, then you should stop worrying. Easier said than done right?
Let’s see if we can help and slow down the process.
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Even thou we know that it solves nothing we may continue to worry. And actually, it makes matters worse for our own health and well being.
Worriers often live in a continuous cycle of fear and anxiety. Fear and anxiety are the terrible by products of worrying. This continuous cycle is like running on a hamster wheel. You can’t get off even though you’re completely exhausted! This kind of worry can place you in a constant state of painful uneasiness. Sometimes the thoughts become obsessive to the point where you cannot function or even think about anything else.
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While you wrestle with anxiety-filled thoughts, you are consumed and robbed of the gift to live in the present moment. And it’s in the present moment that you are intended to be in.
As we know, yesterday is gone and tomorrow is not here. All we truly have is this very day, this very moment. We need to try to stay in that. I know it’s not easy but with practice it can be achieved.
It is beneficial to change our thoughts from what we are worrying about to something more positive. This is something we need to practice doing. Eventually we will find we can do it more often than not.
Winston Churchill once said:
“When I look back on all these worries, I remember the story of the old man who said on his deathbed that he had – had a lot of trouble in his life, most of which never happened.”
And ain’t it the truth.
Look For A Solution
Another healthy thing to do, rather than worry about a thing is to look for a solution to whatever it is we are worrying about. From my own experience I have found this to be the BEST solution bar all others.
If it’s a past thing then its likely there isn’t anything we can do about it. So let it go, and live in the present.
If we are worrying about a “what if” we just need to stop that. I am sure we have all spent a great deal of time running all kinds of probabilities around in our head. What if this, and I will say that. If that happens it will be awful. On and on. There is no way we can predict the future. We need to stop wasting time on this.
Maybe we have something going on right now that is causing us to worry. What can we do about it? Let’s focus our thoughts more on the solution than on the problem. That gives us direction.
Maybe we are worried about another persons actions or choices. Simply put, we cannot change anyone other than ourselves. We may share our thoughts with them but ultimately, their actions and choices are their own — not ours. The only person we can change is our self.
It does not make a lot of sense to focus on something we can really do nothing about. We waste our time and energy for nothing. It’s better to focus on what we can change and sometimes that is simply our own outlook on the issue.
You should only be thinking about the past if it relates to learning from your mistakes. It was a learning experience and a reminder not to repeat it.
Stay focused on what is right in front of you. A friend once said: “Be where your hands are.” That is a good one to consider. It means stay in the present.
Don’t Obsess Over The Future
In can be easy to invest too much time and effort in the future. How many times have you planned it all out in your mind and it ended up nothing at all like you thought it would?
Setting targets and goals can be useful but only when done constructively. You always need some sort of future planning but always looking ahead can prevent you from being happy right now.
A balance is required to appreciate the present, learn from your mistakes and plan. Whatever you are doing, always find the positive aspects of the present.